6 Months Old 

Where oh where is the time going? 

I swear it was only yesterday that our baby girl was placed in our arms and now she is a big girl who eats 3 solid meals a day and rolls around. 

Alessia is just the little love of our lives. We just love watching her grow. Although I do wish the weeks would slow down. They seem to be flying by! It’s only 6 months until Christmas 🙈, Just Saying! 

Alessia is currently smack bang in the middle of Leap 5! Anyone familiar with Wonder Weeks will feel my pain. I do miss her sleeping through the night but I know once this growth spurt passes and her little teeth cut through that she will be back to her normal self. 

She is still such a bubbly bubba, always has a little smile on her face. She gives the best kisses! Loves reading books with mum and dad, loves the attention when we applaud her for rolling over. And loves loves loves food! She must taste whatever we are eating! Will often wear more than she eats.

We celebrated Alessia’s Baptism last Sunday in a very intimate event. Everything we imagined it would be. We had an incredible photographer capture the ceremony – follow @leviandrew on Instagram! 

Alessia wore her Nonna’s Baptism Gown from 1961! It is still in immaculate condition.  I was so scared as I carefully handwashed it. I hope to keep it stored safely so that my grandchildren can be baptised in it in future. 

We celebrated at St Paul’s Catholic Church where we were married almost 3 years ago, then held a very intimate reception across the road at The BootFactory Cafe in their loft function room. 

Supplier Details : 

– Cake : Laurent Patisserie 

– Stole : Nancy’s Creations 

– Candle : Young Wild & Three Designs 

– Cake Topper : Etsy 

– My Dress: Showpo (Online)
We have just 1 month until we set off to Bali for our First Family Holiday 🙊. I am excited but shitting myself at the same time. The flight, water situation etc. if anyone has any tips on travelling with a Bub – let me know! 

Alessia’s Passport Mugshot!

2 weeks away with my little family will be bliss! We love having daddy home so it will be great to create these memories as a family. I love capturing and documenting things so will begin to fill in her travel journal with our adventures whilst we are away. 

I’m doing a quick update whilst on the couch with a sleeping Bub 🙌🏼, I’m mindful that my phone battery is about to die so I’ll keep it brief. 

Adam got his Alessia Tattoo Chest Plate done! Ouch but Yay! 

Alessia is just under 9kg 🙈, I haven’t measured her length in a month so I’ll have to double check that but I’m thinking she is almost 70cm tall. 

Alessia rolls from her back to her tummy with ease however isn’t a fan of the reverse. She is very strong and can hold herself up well. Loves to play peek a boo when on her tummy. 

She is such a little giggle guts and finds us to be hilarious! Super ticklish on the neck. Slowly learning how to use her walker but loves loves loves to jump! 

Still Breastfeeding, I have to admit the prospect of little teeth cutting through make my nipples want to invert. 

Loving solid foods, polishes off meals and loves sipping on some water to wash it down after a meal. 

I have been prepping lots of veg and freezing them in ice trays then having them all bagged and labelled. Makes it easy to mix it up and grab a bit of this and a bit of that. 

At this stage I’ve decided to go back to work in 4 months time – maybe 5…. I’ll see what work says once I’m back from holidays. I will start to introduce a bottle after Bali as once I’m at work Alessia will be in the care of our parents 2 days a week. I’d ideally like to continue Breastfeeding until she is 12 months old as I love the bond we share as well as the benefits to her immune system. Thankfully despite Adam and I both having bad colds recently she remained perfectly healthy and snot free! 🙌🏼

Tomorrow we have Alessia’s 6 month needles 😩. Not looking forward to the tears. 

I’ll try and get another more detailed post done soon but #MumLife comes first. I don’t know how the mummy bloggers do it full time! 

Until Next Time x 

6 Months Old 

Being a Mum on Mother’s Day 

Today marks the fourth Mother’s Day since she we started trying to conceive. I am eternally grateful that this year I share it with my little family. 

Last Mother’s Day I was completely unaware that my miracle was already growing inside me and as such, I spent the day feeling sorry for myself, laying in bed crying and wondering if I would fill the void I had in my heart and my arms. 

I had no idea that only a few days later my life would change forever in the most amazing way. 

On 11th May 2016 we found out we were pregnant and it’s a date I will never forget. 

I wish I could truly explain to those trying to conceive the feeling but it’s just something you have to wait for, because when the time is right and it’s meant to be then it will be…. and I will be worth every tear you shed. 

I endured more IVF in 12 months than some people do in 10 years, 3 x full ICSI cycles. 9 embryo transfers, all unsuccessful… only breaking between because my heart couldn’t cope anymore and my husband begged me to allow my heart to heal. 

I know the heartache, but I also know the joy that follows. It’s indescribable! 

Last year on Mother’s Day I truly believed I may never be a mum, it broke my heart to think that it may never happen but if that was my reality then I had to accept it. And it was only after I accepted the “whatever will be , will be” that it happened. 

I had 100 people telling me “relax! It will happen” and when all you want is a baby it is the hardest thing to hear, even if it is the truth. 

The advice I want to give to anyone trying to conceive is this, people don’t know how to address infertility… so they say the generic things that we probably have all been guilt of saying: “just relax” “it will happen” “go on a holiday”. 

The ironic thing for me was that those words pissed me off so bad when we were experiencing infertility, yet it was when I relaxed and “let it happen” that it happened. 

I know that every pregnancy is a blessing but I truly believe that when you’ve waited so long for it, you appreciate it more. You’ve fought hard to get there and it’s that little bit extra special. 

Don’t ever give up! Speak up to your nearest and dearest about what you’re going through. As having that extra support makes all the difference.

And remember, I’m always here! 

I cherish every moment I have with my daughter, she is almost 5 months old and every morning I wake up to her beautiful little face. I look forward to that smile when her daddy says “Good Morning My Beautiful Girl”, she smiles so hard that her eyes close a little. 

This Morning my beautiful husband gifted me lovely new PJs, a gorgeous Glasshouse Candle & the most special card that I truly will treasure forever!!!!!! 

We ate waffles and I drank a full mug of HOT Tea 🙌🏼 – Only Mums know how sacred this is! 

I spent the afternoon with my mum, my grandmother and dinner with my inlaws. 

The only tradition I want on Mother’s Day is to spend it with the ones I love. I don’t need a new bag, or expensive gift to celebrate. I want the $5 Mother’s Day Gifts that my daughter picks at school because she looked at it and thought I would love it! Even if it’s the ugliest fucking thing on offer, I’ll treasure it and show her how special I think it is because it’s a gift from my child. I want the extra kiss and cuddle from my hubby and baby. That to me is what Mother’s Day is about. 

New PJs however are a great gift! Thanks Hun – feel free to keep that tradition too 😉

I know how lucky we are to have conceived naturally and had a healthy pregnancy that resulted in this beautiful girl.

No words can describe what you feel when you hear your baby laugh, or the pain in your heart when you know they’re crying in pain. You feel that shit in your soul! 

The same way only a mother knows this feeling of hurt when their child is hurting, only a woman who is desperately trying to conceive knows the true torture that is another period or negative pregnancy test. 

Alessia is truly the best thing to ever happen to us. I absolutely love being her mum. I love her smells, her smile, her beautiful blue eyes, her chunky thighs and little toes, her kissable lips and chubby fingers. She is my perfect little princess. 

I think I’m actually obsessed with her haha and I’m pretty sure Adam is too! 

A little update on Alessia: 

Alessia has developed my love of sleep (and food 😝) , Alessia sleeps between 11-13 hours a night – waking once to feed. Her sleep regressed slightly at 4 months however is slowly going back to normal and she generally goes down between 8:30-9:30pm , waking between 8-9am. 

Still Breastfeeding which I am loving, the bond you share when feeding your child is indescribable, to know they’re nourished by your body is an amazing feeling. I know not everyone is able to or wants to Breastfeed but I wanted to and truly love being able to do it. This is my experience.

Foods that Alessia has tried and loves are: Pumpkin, Zucchini, Carrot, Pear, Apple, Mango, Apricot, Peas, Spinach, Banana, Avocado, Sweet Potato, Broccoli. 

The other day we were eating Vietnamese Bao and she was watching us eat and cracked it and screamed at me until I gave her some…. they say to give them what is on your plate, it was nothing that could hurt her, she absolutely loved it!!!! 

The only thing that she hasn’t liked and it really hurt her little tummy is Rice Cereal.

As much as I want her to stay little forever I am loving watching her grow and each day gets better and better. 

I cannot believe that she is almost 5 months old! Where on earth did the time go? 😩

Until Next Time x 

Being a Mum on Mother’s Day 

4 and a bit months 

Sorry for the lack of updates #MumLife! 

We have been busy watching our daughter grow and reach new milestones. 

Alessia is now on solids! 🙈

So far she has tasted (and loves)… 

– Apple, Pear, Banana, Apricot, Blueberry, Mango, Avocado, Carrot, Pumpkin, Zucchini, Brocolli, Chicken, Rice, Potato.

All this goodness is helping to fill in these scrumptious cheeks! 

Alessia will go to sleep anywhere from 8:30pm-10pm and generally wakes once to feed between 2-5am, sleeping again until around 9am. Before her 4 month immunisation/ 4th leap she was sleeping a solid 10-12 hours without waking. Thankfully though she is straight back to sleep after a quick feed. 

Still Breastfeeding and Loving it. Having those little eyes look up and stare at you is just the most amazing feeling. It’s a very special bond and I am so grateful that I have been able and continue to feed my child.

Will give a little plug here to a an incredible small business… Sweet Graze – Lactation Cookies! Daniela’s Nutella Lactation Cookies are seriously amazing! They have definitely helped me maintain a strong supply (I’m able to express 150ml bottle after a feed) and they taste absolutely incredible. Plenty of delicious flavours but Nutella are by far my favourite. Check Them Out! 

Alessia is almost rolling…. I have a feeling that once this kid gets moving there will be no stopping her 🙈. 

We recently celebrated Alessia’s First Easter, I love making beautiful memories with her and have taken soooooo many photos! I’ve had to start making photo books and albums to keep up with them all. 

The ‘Easter Bunny’ bought Alessia a beautiful keepsake book which is a personalised story about her and the Easter Bunny. 

Our baby is growing up way too fast. I wish I could slow down time and just soak in these moments forever. Her little laugh is just infectious. 

The next few months will be filled with party planning for Alessia’s Baptism which will be a very intimate event, plus organising her passport for our first overseas family holiday to Bali in July. 

In the last few months I have made some beautiful new friends at Mothers Group and I look forward to our weekly catch up which now includes walks, lunches and coffee. We speak daily and it’s refreshing to have other mums to bounce things off. 

I’ll try and get around to a more detailed post in the coming week or so. My focus really is caring for my daughter so writing has taken a backburner for the moment but when I get a chance I’ll hopefully get it done. I feel like my body is trying to catch up on all the sleep I missed out on in that first few weeks and I am finding myself napping with Alessia in the afternoons or falling asleep on the couch of a night time. 

Being a mum is a tough gig, its a 24 hour job and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. 

Thanks for reading. I’m off to bed x 

4 and a bit months 

3 Months of Motherhood 

Is it really April?!? 

Where on earth did that time go? 

Alessia is now 3 and a bit months old and growing more and more precious by the day.

Alessia’s 3 month update: Weight is 6.7kg & Length is 62cm. 

Sleeping between 9-11 hours a night and napping 3-4 time anywhere from 20 mins to 2 hours depending on weather and where we are. 

This kid will sleep anywhere! Pram, Car seat , Cot, Bed, Bouncer, Floor Mat or even sitting up at the kitchen table! She will go down willingly without fuss most times, but when she is over tired she will whinge for a short period, picking her up stops her sooking. 

Alessia starts her night in her cot and when she wakes I bring her in with us so that I can feed her whilst sleeping. It works for us and Alessia hasn’t developed any “bad habits” as she sleeps through the night in her cot and would go back to her cot after a feed if placed there but it’s usually due to us both falling back to sleep that this doesn’t happen so it’s almost always 3 in the bed each morning and we love it that way. 

So smiley in the mornings with beautiful kisses and cuddles for mum and dad. 

Alessia is now:                                                     • Talking (baby babble) • Giggling • Lifting & Turning her head whilst on her tummy (Hates Tummy Time but will do it if entertained constantly during it ) • Holding her Toys • Putting Everything she can in her mouth • Turning on her side (not yet rolling) • Kicking her Legs with excitement •   Blowing Saliva Bubbles • Dribbling Lots • Sitting Up (Assisted) • Following Sounds • Loving the Bath • Enjoying her Jolly Jumper • Recognising Voices & Faces • 

Tonight I packed away all of her Summer Wardrobe, I cannot believe how many clothes she has outgrown already! She is still wearing/fitting Bonds 000 Onesies however moving into all other 00 Clothes which is great as her wardrobe for Winter includes some beautiful little pieces. 

We will be organising her Passport soon as we are heading to Bali for a fortnight in July. Looking forward to our First Holiday as a Little Family! 

I am slowly printing her albums and filling in her Baby Book & Journals etc. when I get a chance. Playing with Alessia and ensuring she is stimulated and cared for is my number one priority. 

Currently laying in bed with her sleeping snuggled next to me whilst I write this post. 

Alessia is still exclusively Breastfeeding which I am loving. The bond we share when she is feeding just warms my heart. The way her little hands hold my t-shirt makes me smile everyday. 

We will be starting to introduce solids (puree) later this month 🙊, something tells me that this little pork chop is gonna love it! 

Will be starting her off on some rice cereal and breastmilk. Then adding in puréed fruit and veg (separately) as the days and weeks progress. We have been discussing foods at Mothers Group with our Maternal Health Nurse, ours encourages introducing solids from 4 months. 

I’m looking forward to Alessia sharing a feed with her daddy. I know Adam can’t wait to help out with feeds so solids initially will be a daddy daughter time. 

Alessia will be Baptised in June. We have booked an intimate event with just 26 people. My Cousin/Maid of Honour Megan will be Alessia’s Godmother, Adam’s Twin Brother Mathew will be Alessia’s Godfather. We have always agreed that we wanted a small intimate celebration when we baptise our children. We look forward to celebrating with our nearest and dearest. 

Being a mum truly is the best job in the world. I know how lucky I am to have such a happy/bubbly baby who loves to sleep! I said to Adam when I was pregnant “you better hope that this kid loves sleep as much as I do and isn’t an asshole sleeper like you” 😂 

Whilst we are loving watching her grow and reach new milestones, we really do wish that she would stay this little forever. Her little personality is starting to shine through and I can already tell she is going to have us both wrapped tightly around her little finger. 

I am aiming to write a more detailed post about my experience with being a first time mum soon. I’ll wrap up this post with some recent photos of our little munchkin. 

I’m off to tuck Alessia into her cot and put my feet up on the couch whilst I wait for Adam to get home with a late dinner. 

Thanks for Reading x 

3 Months of Motherhood 

A Tough Decision 

Today we have made a big decision, one that we have had to think long and hard about….. 

We have decided to destroy our embryos that are in storage with Melbourne IVF. We agree that we don’t want to endure the psychological stress of IVF again when we have been blessed with a spontaneous pregnancy which resulted in our gorgeous daughter Alessia. 

This may mean that Alessia is an only child, we may be blessed with more children. But whatever happens from this point is out of our control, and we are ok with that. 

We will never truly ‘try’ for another baby. We will stop all forms of contraception in a few months (in consultation with my Ob/Gyn) and then whatever is meant to be will be…. 

I am looking forward to saying goodbye to IVF and closing that chapter of our lives. 

The experience proved the strength we have as individuals and as a couple. It bought us closer together and created a bond that I am forever thankful for. 

We have been blessed with a little miracle who we absolutely treasure. 

If any of our embryos had ever taken we would be more inclined to hold onto them and maybe even use them in future. But something in my heart tells me to let them go, that I won’t need them. 

It’s like they already served their purpose in helping me grow as a woman, thickening my skin and preparing me to become the mother that I am today. 

I’ll never forget my IVF experience and will one day sit Alessia down and tell her about what we went through in our quest to become parents. 

I know so many women who are trying so hard to fulfill their baby dream, they’re in my thoughts every day as I know that road, I remember it well. But know that there is light at the end and it is well worth the journey. 

We got lucky and defied the doctors, proving my body knew what to do after all….. it just took a little longer than expected. 

I never thought I would be asking Melbourne IVF to destroy embryos that I fought so hard for, but here we are. 

Donating our embryos was never an option for us, We couldn’t live our lives knowing there was a child/children that were ours in the world that we didn’t have in our lives. I take my hat off to those couples who make that selfless decision to help others. 

I actually feel like a huge weight has been lifted, it was a tough decision but surprisingly easy. There is no turning back once we make this choice, so it was a decision that we needed to make sure we were sure of. As I look into my daughters eyes, I’ve never been more certain of anything in my life. 

If this is it, then we are blessed. 

Our hearts are so full and our daughter is the light of our lives. 

Here are some happy snaps from our Nephews Baptism yesterday. 

I’ll aim to post an Alessia update soon. 

I have been meaning to for weeks but…. #MumLife haha 

Until next Time x 

A Tough Decision 

2 Months in

Alessia is 2 Months old Today!

Where has the time gone?

I absolutely love being her mum! Every morning we wake up to her gorgeous little smile. 

Our days are very different lately and we wouldn’t change them for the world! Yesterday my daughter shit on me….. TWICE before 7am! Today I have been up since 6am, I’ve cleaned my house from top to bottom, showered, put some make up on, bathed Alessia, folded the clothes & done 2 loads of washing. 

Alessia is still napping, she has been down since 10:30am so I decided to take a moment to write a quick blog post.

Thankfully this kid lovesssss sleep! Because we do too, I am that mum that naps when my baby does. I sleep from 2-4pm most afternoons. 🙌🏼 

Alessia doesn’t really have a routine, but she has sort of fallen into a pattern all on her own. Adam works in the afternoon/evening and gets home at roughly 11pm, 9 out of 10 nights Alessia is still awake when he gets home. He will have a quick shower then enjoy a snuggly cuddle with her before she feeds and goes to sleep. She will sleep between 4-5 hours , then wake to feed and go straight back to sleep for another 3-4 hours, feed again and have another 1 hour sleep. 

The last week or so we have been putting her in her cot instead of the bassinet and she is absolutely loving it! She has lots of room to spread her arms out. 

We follow a wake, feed, play, sleep once she is awake in the morning. 

Alessia loves her toys and stares at her hanging ones in the car. She loves her play mat and will kick and make noises and smile. 

I’m still exclusively breastfeeding Alessia, we are both loving it! She is thriving and I’m enjoying the bond I get to share with her when feeding. It’s such a beautiful feeling to know my baby is getting everything she needs from my body. 

We have trialled bottles but she doesn’t take them as doesn’t quite understand how to feed from them. She also hates a dummy and will gag when it’s anywhere near her mouth. She has taken a dummy on a few occasions when she was a little younger but now refuses it. She is a very content baby who really doesn’t need one so we aren’t worried by it. If anything I’m glad she doesn’t take one as it means I don’t have to worry about getting rid of it when she is older. 
I’ve had people tell me that I should be offering Alessia a bottle of formula at night, I have trialled this on a number of occasions and it’s been a big fail as she wears more than she drinks and it hurt her tummy so we gave up trying and will revisit the bottle again with different formula soon. 

There are those that I happily take advise from and those that need to shut the f*ck up when it comes to these things. 

If you haven’t exclusively breastfed  your baby then please don’t tell me how I should be feeding my child! I don’t tell mothers who exclusively formula bottle feed their babies what to do so why is it ok for them to tell me what I should be doing?!? 

I have no issue with how people choose to feed their children and have always said that Fed is Best! So I don’t understand why other new mums feel the need to comment on what will “settle” my child or help her sleep better! 

Alessia has never been an unsettled baby. She rarely cries, naps 3-4 times a day. Wakes once through the night and shits like a trooper… so why does she need formula? 

I wouldn’t dare suggest to a mother of a bottle fed baby that they offer their baby their boob to comfort them at night so why is it any different for them to tell me to give her a bottle? 

The only person impacted by Alessia not taking a bottle is me! I am happy to breastfeed on demand and don’t need her to be looked after by someone else, I am on paid leave until October so for the moment bottles are certainly no issue in this house, plus my bench stays nice and clear! 

When Alessia starts sleeping through the night then I will happily offer her a bottle and drop her off at one of her grandparents house for a sleepover but for the moment we haven’t felt the need to have a “night off”. We have a beautiful, happy baby who sleeps well, I vacuumed her room this morning whilst she was in her cot and just the other day she slept through my hairdresser appointment including a blow wave without a peep so I don’t feel like I need a break from her as she doesn’t stop me from doing anything. If anything, we do more with a baby than we did as a couple. 

We still make time for us, when Alessia goes down we make time for long chats, cuddles, kisses and intimacy. We talk everyday about things other than Alessia because as much as she is our world, there are other things to talk about than poo and playtime.

I don’t understand how people say that once you have kids your sex life disappears… Bullshit! If you want it, you make time for it! Keeping your relationship with your partner is so important! We have been together for 13 years now and still can’t keep our hands off each other. Kids can’t change that.

Each day I shower, put on some make up, fix my hair and make myself feel good, I dont do these things for my husband or anyone but myself. Truth be told my husband prefers when I don’t wear make up. During this time Adam has cuddles and daddy / daughter playtime with Alessia and this is my “me time”. I also try and eat good food and exercise to help me continue to lose weight. I have been walking when I can and I am already lighter than my pre baby weight but I am heavier than I would like to be and so I am actively doing something about it.

When I was younger I walked to stay fit. I forgot how much I enjoy a nice brisk walk. If its not raining or stinking hot I will put Alessia in the pram, put together a playlist and walk to the supermarket (4km/1 hour round trip walk). 

Yes I have stretch marks and my boobs will never be the same, but this body made a baby! I am so proud of what my body has achieved and I will never take my ability to carry a child for granted. No number on a scale or tag of clothing will make me happier than I am when I look into my babies eyes… 

I’m gonna wrap this post up here as Alessia is waking up from her second nap and I can’t wait to smooch her and snuggle her. 

I will aim to post more during the week about Alessia’s development, she is changing every single day. 

Here are some photos from the last few weeks… 

2 Months in

Epworth Freemasons Maternity – Never Again! 

Our delivery at Epworth Freemasons was perfect! The staff were fantastic. We were made to feel calm, safe and cared for. 

I have blogged about delivery yesterday so I won’t revisit it in detail but want to elaborate on our experience with Epworth Freemasons East Melbourne. 

From the moment we left the recovery area of the Day Procedure Unit it all started to go downhill. I was shocked that we were wheeled through the main reception area of the hospital and into the lift to go up for Level 2 to the Maternity Unit. As soon as the lift doors opened we were greeted by our waiting family, whilst I was happy to see them, I had hoped that we would be in our room before we saw everyone so they would get a proper first look at her and not a quick glance whilst we are still doing skin to skin breastfeeding. 

In recovery I had been medicated and allowed to sip on some water. Upon arriving in our recovery room on the maternity ward we allowed our family to come in to meet our little Alessia Lucia for the first time. It was here that we told them her name. We had kept it to ourselves until this point as wanted it to be special. 

The midwife on the ward was abrupt and frankly quite rude. I had asked my mum for a glass of water and the midwife advised that I wasn’t allowed! I mentioned that I had been allowed to sip on water downstairs so didn’t see an issue in continuing, plus I felt really well. She reluctantly agreed provided I sipped it. We tried to order Adam some dinner from the menu and were advised that we had missed the cut off for the kitchen by 30 mins , despite having been in the room for almost 2 hours at this point. I felt that if there is a 4:30pm cut off then there should be a courtesy “if you’re staying and wanting to order some dinner that you will need to do so by 4:30”. Funnily enough when we asked if she could enquire with he kitchen if it was possible for him to get just a light meal she responded that she couldn’t as she was due to go on her dinner break -ha! Looks like Adam is having Maccas! 

After everyone had left we asked we could please have a roll away bed for Adam so that we could try and get some rest. ( The first night post C Section I was in a single bed with a catheter in). 

We were told that his bed would be in the hallway and he needs to bring it in and set it up without assistance. The position where he was told to put it would have meant that the midwife would have had to have stepped over him during the night so he put it under the window and needed to move my bed and Alessia’s crib to fit it. 

Now you might think that these things are petty, but these “little” things just kept happening! 

Due to being doped up on pain relief I don’t remember what time we went to bed but around 2-3am I woke to a splatter in Alessia’s crib after she sneezed. Lots of gunk had come out of her lungs/mouth so I pressed the call button to get the midwives help as it needed to be cleaned as it was all over the side of her crib as well as her linen and swaddle wrap. 

When the midwife started she told us that if we needed assistance we were to call her mobile/cordless phone from our room phone and avoid using the call button. Due to it being the middle of the night when this happened I instinctively called out to Adam to wake and help and hit the call button. When the midwife walked in, rather than ask what we needed assistance with she said “I told you to call my phone if you need me!” 

I almost threw the bloody phone at her head! My baby was 12 hours old, has just spluttered black shit from her lungs and this stupid woman is gonna tell me off for not calling her phone?!?!? Turns out the nursing staff/midwives are rated on their response rate however this is avoided when using the cordless. 

The following morning we met a lovely midwife , she helped me up to the loo and then requested I have a shower. I felt great so Adam helped me shower. We mentioned our disappointment with the staff from the afternoon/night before and she passed it on. 

As I was mobile and felt ok we were moved two doors down into a bigger room with a bigger bed. A lady who advised she was in charge came to discuss our concerns with Adam not being able to order dinner the night before. I was shocked when she wouldn’t even look at me and rather focused on my electronic chart. She simply stated ” dad doesn’t normally eat on the first night!” WTF! They don’t eat?!? Ok Then! 

The midwives continued to come in and give me medication despite me expressing to them that I felt ok and am not one to normally take pain relief. I was given a concoction of Endone,Tramadol,Panadol & Voltaren. As I was demand breastfeeding (still am) they would ask to see how I was going when feeding so I would breastfeed Alessia with them present and take on board their advice. Thankfully my milk came in on the morning after delivery. I knew it had come in and told the afternoon midwife. She wanted to check to be sure and it squirted her in the face 😂😂 – serves you right for doubting me! 

I was seeing a haematologist in pregnancy due to my blood condition and was prescribed blood thinning injections-Fondiparinux to take for 2-3 weeks due to developing an allergy to Clexane. Each 6 days it cost me $140! I had filled my script and taken the medication in with me. On night one the midwife took the medication from me and advised she would store it in the drug store. 

On Tuesday night I was so exhausted having been up every 2 hours feeding so come 8:00pm I was ready for bed. I had been told to take the blood thinner at the same time each day and as it had been administered at 8pm on Monday I requested that I get my injection at 8pm so that I could get some much needed sleep. 

The midwife came in with another nurse and grabbed my wrist to check what I was allergic to before giving me pain relief – I advised them that I didn’t want pain relief as I felt fine but would appreciate them getting my blood thinner so that I can get some rest. 

They advised me that the meds have already been dispensed so I needed to take them. They also mentioned that they were having difficulty locating my blood thinner but as soon as they locate it they will bring it in and administer it. I just wanted to sleep and was so disappointed that this was happening. 

I had been told by several midwives throughout the day that they normally have 6 patients each and currently had 9-12! Ummmm not my problem! My Private Health Fund is paying $8220 for my 5 day stay….. get more staff! 

The combo of medication they were giving to me made me feel like I was off my head and I was falling asleep constantly during the day. I kept advising the midwives that I did not want them. It got to a point Wednesday that I just refused to take them. I was sick of being drugged, I was sick of falling asleep on my guests. I made the midwife leave the medication and advised that I would not be taking them unless needed. That was 5pm Wednesday (50 hours post op) and I haven’t taken any pain relief since. Not even a panadol! I told you I felt ok lol. 

Wednesday morning Alessia had her hearing test and passed without issue. The lady that conducted the test was lovely. 

Hearing test – passed

When the midwife was bathing Alessia on Wednesday afternoon, Alessia turned her head and put her nose under the water which allowed her to inhale water and choke. The midwife scooped her out of the bath and when Alessia finally regained her breath and started crying the midwife made remark “due for another breastfeed are you?” …. ummm she just choked on water. Pretty sure that’s why she is screaming!! 

I stressed to the midwife from about 5pm that my blood thinner is due at 8pm. I think i mentioned it twelve times. I just didn’t want it to be late again.

Sure enough, 8pm arrives and no blood thinner. I called the midwife on her cordless phone and was advised they’re having difficulty locating it….. again!!! Around 30 mins later they stroll in to give it to me. Not acceptable!

Thursday morning at 7:15am we had a new midwife come in with a student nurse from ACU and asked if it was ok if the student was present – everyone has to learn so we agreed. Adam bought it to my attention that one of them stunk of cigarettes. This didn’t sit well with me. Especially since this is a maternity ward and you’re dealing with babies. 

They weighed Alessia and she had gone from 3.16kg at birth to 2.95kg . Length was deemed to be 49cm however when we measured her she was 51cm (later measured as 53cm by health nurse using a proper measure and not a tape). Alessia has screamed due to being naked for her weigh in so when the student midwife went to take her heart rate she was unable to get the reading. The trained midwife discussed with the student that you cannot take a heart rate when the baby is crying. I thought nothing of it at the time but later glanced at Alessia’s chart when I noticed her heart rate had been recorded for 7:30am! And midnight….. how on earth did the overnight nurse check Alessia’s heart rate if she didn’t go anywhere near her? 

I was sooooo angry! They were making up Observations of my baby – not acceptable and frankly it’s unethical!

Final hospital weigh in

Later than morning I was laying down on my tummy (yes, I felt that good post op!) when a lady entered and advised that she was calling to offer for us to be moved to The Park Hyatt Hotel. We took one look at each other and said “if we are well enough to go to a hotel then we are going to go home!” We were told that we would need my Obstetrician to give the approval but couldn’t foresee an issue. The hospital would send us a $200 gift card for going home early. (They still get the full $8220 from Medibank so are grateful if we leave early and don’t go to Park Hyatt as they save money) 

After what felt like an eternity, Dr Sgroi came and gave me the all ok to go home. Alessia had already been seen by the Paediatrician that morning and was deemed perfectly healthy. After removing the gause from my wound and giving me some booklets to take home we were sent on our way. Made to make our own way to the car, they didn’t even check that we had a car seat installed! Get me out of here now!!! 

It was such a relief to get Alessia home! I finally felt like a mum. I hated being in hospital and so did Adam. We were starting to get a bit of Cabin Fever! 

Home Sweet Home
I emailed my concerns to The Epworth Freemasons and had my Ob & Hospital Staff member call me to apologise. I was then contacted by the hospitals Patient Liason Administrator. That phone call was a complete waste of time! She made an excuse for every single thing! And advised that they spoke to the midwife about the obs and they distinctly remember taking them……. hmm! So my word against theirs. 

I am grateful that my new Ob Dr Joseph Sgroi delivers at Frances Perry House & St Vincent’s too. As one thing is for sure, I will never stay at Epworth Freemasons again!!!! 

I would go back to the DPU in the event I require another laparoscopy however I made it very clear to my Ob that I refuse to go back to the ward of their maternity unit. The thought of it makes me angry. 

I felt like I was fed and drugged the whole time we were there. I appreciate that it was a busy time of year but get more staff! The nursery was so full that we weren’t even allowed to walk in there! 

I hope that no one else has to experience such a shitty stay there but made the official complaint and decided to blog about it to share our experience so that they make sure it doesn’t happen again. 

I know some of my points may seem petty but it wasn’t just the fact that I wasn’t allowed to have a drink of water, it was the tone in which I was spoken to. I understand that their focus is on me and my baby but if you’re allowing the husbands to stay then at least tell people if they want to eat they need to order by 4:30. I registered with Epworth Freemasons in July 2016 so they had plenty of notice that we were coming…. 

anyway I’ll wrap this one up here as I’m mindful that it’s a long one. I simply wanted to share this with you all as I was so disappointed with my stay that I felt I needed to share it. 

I’d love to hear about others experiences with them..

I do want to mention that we had a positive experience in delivery room. Recovery downstairs as well as with our Obstetrician – Joe even gave us a beautiful gift and his receptionist came upstairs for cuddles after work on Monday! Our paediatrician was also lovely! 

Epworth Freemasons Maternity – Never Again!